gingerism

[ajva]

Here's a joke. "What's the difference between a terrorist and a redhead?"

Here's the punchline. "You can negotiate with a terrorist."

LOL!!!! What nonsense. :o)

God, people are always looking for something to get self-pitying about, aren't they? As if it kinda removes the obligation to go out and grasp the day. Grow the hell up and stop whining.

Comments

[sashajwolf.livejournal.com]

I disagree - I think that if I am going to do something which is distinguishable from bullying, racism, sexism etc only by the subjective reaction of the target, then the onus is on me to make very sure that it is acceptable and not on the target to tell me it's unacceptable. In other words, the default position is Don't Do It (unless the other person shows that it's okay, not Do It until the other person says stop. A comparison with cases of alleged rape is instructive, I think.

[kake]

My point is though that I don't think this is always possible. The set of things which are obviously acceptable is individual and cultural. There are certainly things which I feel I should always make sure to be on the safe side of, but I can't include every possible social interaction in that list, or I'd never be able to do anything. Hence, I should give people some leeway in my reading of their actions towards me, rather than assuming the worst straight off.

[sashajwolf.livejournal.com]

True. I just don't think that ribbing someone is ever on the "obviously acceptable" side of the line, unless the recipient has said that it is for them. Without that, I think it's always either a "not acceptable" or a "maybe", so a person does it at their own risk.